Marriage counselling in Toronto East by Beth Mares

<body stylesrc="marital_counsellors.htm" leftmargin="100" alink="#000000"> <h2 align="center"><font face="Arial" size="5">Beth Mares Counselling</font></h2> <h1 align="center"><font face="Arial">Marriage counselling in Toronto East by psychotherapist Beth Mares</font></h1> <span style="font-style: italic"> <font face="Benguiat Bk BT"> <b> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"> <font size="4">Serving East Toronto--Danforth, the Beaches and Scarborough</font></p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> </b> </font> </span> <font face="Benguiat Bk BT"> <font face="Times New Roman"> <p class="MsoPlainText" align="center"><i><font size="4">Danforth office:</font></i></p> <p class="MsoPlainText" align="center"> <i><font size="4">Beth Mares Counselling,<br>  403-294 Main Street <br> Toronto, ON  M4C 4X5<br>  </font></i></p> <b> <span style="font-style: italic"> <p class="MsoPlainText" align="center"> </p> </span> </b> </font> <span style="font-style: italic"> <font face="Times New Roman"> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"> <font size="4">Beth Mares Counselling,  </font></p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"> <font size="4">Rosedale Medical Building,<br> Suite 605, 600 Sherbourne Street,<br>  Toronto, ON  M4X 1W4</font></p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> </font> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> <font face="Times New Roman"> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"> <font size="4"><br> Voice mailbox for Beth's clients : 416-699-5515</font></p> </font> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> </span> </font> <p align="center"> <font face="Benguiat Bk BT"> <span style="font-style: italic"> <font face="Times New Roman"> <i><font size="4">Please do not send mail to the above addresses. Email to request the mailing address.</font></i></font></span></font></p> <p align="center"> <i><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">This website belongs to Beth Mares and Mike Mares of Toronto</font></i></p> <p><font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Couples counsellor Beth Mares has maintained a full-time psychotherapy practice in Toronto for over 20 years, and is a clinical member of the Ontario Society of Psychotherapists. She has offices in downtown Toronto and in East Toronto near Scarborough and the Beaches, both of them on the subway with good parking. </font></p> <p><font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Beth offers various types of relationship counselling to enhance intimacy and marital satisfaction, for both male/female and same-sex couples. She has a special interest in couples who have been forced to live apart--see <a href="long_distance_relationships.htm">Long Distance Relationships. </a>Much of her work relates to overcoming problems caused by infidelity, including affairs, pornography addiction, and sex addiction, but works with many other difficulties, notably adult children of alcoholics issues and other family of origin issues and how they play out in relationships. She also works with immigrant couples on the particular challenges they face, and with clash of cultures between individuals and their families or their in-laws. She does both long term and short term individual therapy, sometimes in the context of marital therapy, sometimes not. Beth also offers support with divorce or a break-up, and secular marriage preparation (pre-marital counselling), which sometimes involves help with the stress often inherent in planning the wedding and trying to keep the family members happy.</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Beth has a particular interest in <a href="sex_therapy_Toronto.htm">the treatment of sexual problems</a> in relationships, especially low sexual desire (see <a href="dearbeth/sex_problem.htm">therapy for low sexual desire</a>), disruptions to a couple's sex life caused by circumstances, infidelity in all its forms, and sex addictions (see <a href="sex_addiction_counselling_Toronto.htm">sex addiction treatment--Toronto, Thunder Bay, Sudbury, Timmins and Sault Ste Marie</a>) or sexual preoccupations. These may include excessive or ego-dystonic use of internet or other pornography, unsafe sex, excessive or obsessive flirtation, obsessive and excessive masturbation, sexual activities that the person or family cannot afford, or addiction to strip bars, sexual massage parlours, or prostitutes. She also works with many different forms of relationship addiction--see<font face="Bookman Old Style" size="4"> <font face="Bookman Old Style" size="4" color="#000000"> <a href="dearbeth/counselling_relationships.htm">love addiction</a>. <font face="Times New Roman" size="4">She makes use of acceptance and commitment therapy--see <a href="sex_addiction_counselling_Toronto.htm">ACT for sex addiction</a> for both relationship addiction and sexual addictions and preoccupations.</font></font></font></font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Beth also has a special interest in working with the concerns of mature individuals and couples--see <a href="counselling-middle-age.htm">Counselling and therapy in mid life.</a></font></p> <h3> </h3> <h3><font face="Arial" size="5">Marital therapy service: methods and issues worked with</font></h3> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Marriage counsellor Beth Mares works with the concerns listed below, using various methods. For some couples psychoeducational and behavioral methods such as teaching communication skills, problem-solving skills and negotiation are sufficient; for those needing help with intimacy, attachment or building trust a more in-depth approach is required; conjoint couple therapy is the usual method, unless the people already have individual therapists.</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">an affair or affairs and other forms of cheating, other concerns relating to trust, loyalty and fidelity</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">lying to one's partner; overcoming the effects of past lies</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">co-dependency and other adult children of alcoholics (ACA) issues</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4"> help with communication difficulties, skill building  </font> </p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">mental illness, anxiety disorders or depression in one partner</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">sharing responsibilities; balancing work and home</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">improving a co-dependent or enmeshed relationship through better boundaries and a balanced life; building and maintaining friendships and outside interests</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">difficulties resulting from contrasting backgrounds or different faiths</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">dealing with in-law and extended family conflicts; dealing with immigrant parents who grew up in different cultures</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">marriages strained by the pressures of immigrating from another country; keeping the love alive under stress</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">help with parenting, providing a safe and loving environment for children, parenting as partnership </font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">determining compatibility; ameliorating or otherwise dealing with incompatibility</font></p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17"> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4">particular concerns of gays, lesbians and bisexuals in same sex relationships--see <font color="#CC0000"> <a href="personalcoaching/relationship_coaching_Canada.htm">relationship coaching</a></font></font></p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17"> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4">divorce prevention</font></p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17"> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4">ending a marriage; separation and divorce support; negotiating separation</font></p> <h4> </h4> <h4><font face="Arial" size="5">Sexual problems in relationships and for singles</font></h4> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">enhancing intimacy and sexual satisfaction--see <font color="#CC0000"> <a href="sex_therapy_Toronto.htm">Sex therapist Toronto </a></font></font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">restoring romance to lovemaking</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">help with sexual problems that have resisted change or been hard to figure out</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">low sexual desire <a href="dearbeth/sex_problem.htm">help for low libido</a></font></p> <p align="left"> <font face="Times New Roman" color="#CC0000"> <a href="sex_addiction_counselling_Toronto.htm"><font size="4">sex addiction</font></a></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="4"> and sexual obsessions, such as:</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">internet pornography addiction</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">intrusive thoughts</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">being unable to stay away from sexual massage parlours or prostitutes</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">promiscuity that endangers one's self-esteem, health, relationship, family relationships, or career</font></p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> <p> </p> <h5><font size="5" face="Arial">Marriage counselling for infidelity</font></h5> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Much of Beth's work has been with clients who have experienced an affair,  multiple affairs or other types of unfaithfulness and cheating</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">infidelity involving addictive behaviour--see </font> <font color="#CC0000"> <font face="Times New Roman"> <a href="sex_addiction_counselling_Toronto.htm"><font size="4">help for sex addiction, pornography  addiction, </font> </a></font></p> </font> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">disagreement about what is cheating</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">distrust because of  so-called cheating when the couple was broken up, or when one partner thought they were</font></p> <p><font size="4" face="Times New Roman">see also </font> <font color="#CC0000"> <font face="Times New Roman"> <a href="marital_counsellors.htm"> <font size="4">Couples counselling for infidelity</font></a></font></font></p> <p> </p> <h6><b><font size="5" face="Arial">Individual psychotherapy in the context of marriage counseling</font></b></h6> <p><font size="4" face="Times New Roman">The subjects listed below are addressed in individual sessions as required. Various forms of talk therapy are used, depending on the particular client's needs, most often CBT and psychodynamic psychotherapy, sometimes client-centred (Rogerian), hypnotherapy, guided imagery, NLP, and inner child work. Sometimes coaching techniques are employed. Cognitive behavioral therapy (or cognitive behaviour therapy) is usually important for a client who experiences general anxiety, panic attacks, social phobia, social anxiety, agoraphobia, another anxiety disorder, or any excessive anxiety; also for low self-esteem, insomnia, weight control difficulties, excessive drinking, eating disorders, or depression. For more details about how therapy works and the different methods used, see <a href="psychotherapy.htm">Psychotherapy FAQ</a> Beth also does individual psychotherapy outside the context of marital therapy with both singles and married people. </font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">assertiveness; how to be assertive with difficult people</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">codependency, adult children of alcoholics issues (ACA)</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">developing resilience and coping techniques</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">lying--internal conflicts about whether/when it is OK to lie, or difficulty telling the truth</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">excessive self-criticism</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">career worries</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">clash of cultures when one's parents grew up in a different country</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">how to maintain healthy boundaries</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">grief, loss, bereavement</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">GAD (general anxiety disorder), panic attacks, social phobia, social anxiety or agoraphobia or just a high anxiety level</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">depression, anxious depression, see  <a href="psychotherapy_depression.htm">psychotherapy for depression. </a></font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">worrying, anxiety disorder or sleep disturbance (insomnia)</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">sex addiction, pornography addiction or another habit problem (not hard drugs)</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">workaholism, help with work-life balance</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">bereavement, help with grieving</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">crises and life transitions; adjusting to retirement</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">weight control, weight maintenance</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">weight preoccupation; eating disorder; binge eating; body image issues </font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">coping with a narcissist, someone with a personality disorder, or other difficult people</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">learning resilience and life skills</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">improving self-image and sense of self-worth, self-esteem</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">personal growth, broadening horizons, learning to relax and enjoy leisure, developing artistic and cultural interests</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">information about maintaining mental health or how to help a loved-one maintain mental health</font></p> <p>See also <font face="Benguiat Bk BT"><span style="font-style: italic"> <a href="http://www.therapytorontotherapist.ca" style="text-decoration: none">experienced psychotherapists and counsellors</a> </span>at Therapy Toronto Free Directory</font></p> <p> </p> </font> <h6><font size="4" face="Arial">Stress management in couple therapy</font></h6> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Learning how to cope with and reduce stress can be an essential part of  marriage counseling, especially when the people have a hectic life (for example, coping with parenting while dealing with work stress) and/or when there is a sexual problem or addiction. Beth Mares provides counseling and coaching for people experiencing crises, stressful transitions and other stressful situations--relocating, losing a job, needing to change direction and not knowing where to go, a breakup or divorce, looking after an ill person, bereavement, coping with illness or bad news about health, coping with other family members' problems, etc.; also for people who do not cope well with ordinary levels of stress, and need to develop coping skills and resilience.</font></p> <p><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Personal coaching techniques can be very useful for stress management, and can be done online and by phone, which is helpful if the clients are very busy, live on the outskirts of the GTA, or would have to find a babysitter to come to the office--see </font> <span style="font-weight: 400"> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4" color="#8000AA"> <a href="personalcoaching">life coaching /personal coaching for coping with stress</a></font><font color="#8000AA">. </font><font size="4">Individual psychotherapy sessions are also sometimes done via instant messaging or by phone--see</font><font color="#8000AA"> </font> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4" color="#CC0000"> <a href="phone.htm">online and telephone counselling throughout Ontario. </a></font> </span></p> <p><b><font size="5" face="Arial">Couple compatibility--some thoughts by Beth Mares</font></b></p> <p class="auto-style1"><font face="Times New Roman" size="4">What is it that makes a couple sympatico--in step--compatible? For some, it's being soul mates: for some, sharing interests. For some it doesn't last beyond the honeymoon stage, and is based on a good deal of fantasy. Lasting compatibility takes work, partly because it requires considerable skill in communication at close quarters. It involves understanding each other, at least in some important ways, and it always involves patience and kindness. For more details on what makes a good marriage, see "We Can Work it Out", reviewed in the Books section.</font></p> <p> </p> <span style="font-weight: 400"> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17"><font size="4" face="Times New Roman"><i><br>Website created by Beth and Mike Mares of Toronto</i></font></p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17"> </p> <p align="left" style="margin-top: -17"> <font face="Times New Roman" size="2"><i>Keywords for people who are in a big hurry to get help:</i> <i>mariage, marage, marrage, marige, marrige, marridge  councellor, councelor, psycotherapist, psychotheripist, psychotherpist, codependancy, councilor councillor councelling  counceling  counciling councilling conciling,  co-dependancy, cognitive behavioural, cognitive behavior therpy, couple's counselling, Tronto </i></font></p> <div align="center"> <div align="left"> <dt> </dt></div> </div> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"><i> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Updated July, 2012</font></i></p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"> </p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17"> <font face="Times New Roman" size="4">Copyright � 1998 Beth Mares and Mike Mares</font></p> <p align="center" style="margin-top: -17">  </p> </body>