inability to control use of cyber sex chat rooms or online video sex services

addiction to or lack of control regarding strips clubs,  lap dancing or phone sex

problems involving massage parlours, prostitutes or escort services

distrust, lying, hiding, and cat-and-mouse games that frequently accompany a sexual addiction

compulsive promiscuity, male or female - failure to practice safe sex

infidelity - affairs - compulsive womanizing

inability to control flirting that is causing professional and/or relationship problems

always preferring pornography or other impersonal or anonymous sex to lovemaking

controlling other compulsive sexual behaviours and sexual addictions, including those particularly affecting gay men

women troubled by female sex addiction or "nymphomania"

anxiety disorders and other problems that can underlie a sexual addiction

determining whether the problem is a sex addiction and what type of help is needed

relationship addiction (this sometimes accompanies sexual addiction)

obsessive fantasizing about romantic relationships with fellow workers

compulsive sex with partner rather than being present and aware

constantly talking about sex or making unwanted sexual innuendos

being in trouble for sexual harassment, or risking a complaint

internal conflict over religious beliefs about sexuality

religious obsessions or dysfunctional religious beliefs that are bound up with a sex addiction or "sexual anorexia"

patterns of arousal that are distressing or seem alien

lack of relationship-building skills that sometimes underlie addictive behaviours

life circumstances or other sexual problems that can trigger or revive a sexual addiction

Figuring out whether you have a sex addiction, or if not, what.

Figuring out whether what you saw on the internet about sex addiction is true and/or applies to your situation. (Sometimes people believing what they read on the internet about sex addictions can cause them to do things that are counterproductive.)

Finding the unconscious false beliefs that can underlie sex addiction, sexual co-addiction, and other sexual problems that can mimic addictions

Deciding whether to go into a full time addiction program--considering different treatment options

Deciding whether to attend a 12-step group such as Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)

Getting help to make the best use of a 12-step group, or the relationship with a sponsor

Deciding whether to discontinue your 12-step group, or switch to another one

Disentangling the roles of alcoholism or other concurrent or dormant addictions

Discharging unhealthy shame and guilt

Developing or recovering healthy sexuality

Dilemmas about spirituality, such as do you have to be spiritual to recover from sex addiction?

Forming your own definition of sobriety--especially for sex addictions, sobriety is not defined the same way for everybody

Co-addiction--obsessive, controlling or enabling behaviour by the spouse (who imagines that he/she is responsible for controlling the addiction)

Figuring out whether you are a co-addict (chaotic/enabling, rigid-controlling, enmeshed, or disdainful-obsessed, to use Patrick Carnes's terms)

Improving your work-life balance and learning to enjoy a variety of sources of pleasure.

"An addictive process is a never-ending loop in which the addictive behaviour continuously generates the unhappiness it is pursued to alleviate."--Beth Mares

Danforth East in Toronto (on subway, near The Beaches, serving Scarborough, Pickering & Markham)

Distance counselling provided throughout Ontario, and especially to Northern Ontario, including Thunder Bay, Sault, North Bay, Parry Sound, Sudbury, and Timmins.