Sex addiction counselling & therapy
online or Toronto East Beaches

Shame and grief show in the face of Governor Spitzer as he steps down because of his sexual addiction.
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Ontario-licensed psychotherapist Beth Mares RP provides individual and marital therapy for pornography addiction and other sexual addictions, preoccupations and unwanted habits near the Beach in East Toronto. Her Ontario licence qualifies her to work throughout English Canada via video therapy using a secure platform compliant with all privacy legislation.

Find your self--and lose your addiction

Overcoming a sex addiction isn't about willpower--it's about getting help to find out what's causing the addiction and change it. Psychotherapy for a sexual addiction doesn't just solve the obvious problem--it also makes life richer and happier. Most of the sex-addicted people Beth sees, who tend to be high-achievers, find this process very rewarding and relatively easy; the success rate is close to 100%, and often only short term therapy (i.e., up to 20 sessions) is required.

For help with cyber-addiction, see internet addiction.

Sexual addiction issues Beth helps with

difficulty being fully present in your life because of preoccupation with sexual thoughts or with worries about your sexual behaviour

cybersex addiction/compulsion

addiction to internet pornography, "adult" magazines and videos, etc.

inability to control use of cyber sex chat rooms or online video sex services

addiction to or lack of control regarding strips clubs, lap dancing or phone sex

problems involving massage parlours, prostitutes or escort services

distrust, lying, hiding, and cat-and-mouse games that typically accompany a sexual addiction

compulsive promiscuity, male or female - failure to practice safe sex

infidelity - affairs - compulsive womanizing

inability to control flirting that is causing professional and/or relationship problems

always preferring pornography or other impersonal or anonymous sex to lovemaking

other compulsive sexual behaviours and sexual addictions, including those particularly affecting gay men, compulsive cruising etc.

women troubled by female sex addiction or "nymphomania"

anxiety disorders and other problems that can underlie a sexual addiction

determining whether the problem is a sex addiction and what type of help is needed

relationship addiction (this is sometimes mistaken for sexual addiction)

obsessive fantasizing about romantic relationships with fellow workers

compulsive sex with partner rather than being present and aware

constantly talking about sex or making unwanted sexual innuendos

being in trouble for sexual harassment, or risking a complaint

internal conflict over religious beliefs about sexuality

sex addiction or "sexual anorexia" resulting from limiting religious beliefs in one's family of origin

concern about the type of pornography you watch

patterns of arousal that are distressing or seem alien

lack of relationship-building skills that often underlies addictive behaviours

life circumstances or other sexual problems that can trigger or revive a sexual addiction

relapse prevention

rebuilding trust

See also therapy for intrusive sexual thoughts or concerns about fetishes.

Distance counselling for sex addictions online

How to arrange online counselling. 
Beth's clients have found videocounselling very effective for excessive pornography use and other sexual addictions. Some live in Toronto and are unable to travel to the office because of time or other constraints. Some of them have been from Northern Ontario, where there is a shortage of expertise (North Bay, Thunder Bay, Timmins, Kenora, Parry Sound, Sault Ste Marie, Fort Frances, Temiskaming, Sudbury, Kapuskasing, Temegami, Cochrane, etc. Others live in small centres such as Lindsay and Fenelon Falls in the Kawarthas.) Sessions are typically by video, but can be audio only, and those who can only do sessions on their lunch hour at work and could be overheard use chat.

An addictive process is a never-ending loop in which the addictive behaviour continuously generates the unhappiness it is pursued to alleviate.

ACT--acceptance and commitment therapy

By Beth Mares
The essence of this approach is that instead of perpetuating inner conflict and obsession by trying to strong-arm the self, it helps the client to observe, understand and accept himself, resolve inner conflicts, and move on to finding fulfilment in a way that works instead of futilely pursuing the fantasy represented by an obsession or addiction. While some other approaches to addiction, behavioral problems and emotional distress see them as illness or "sin", I see them as less than optimal ways of coping with the vicissitudes of living in an extremely complex--and less than optimal--society. However, as addictions and prolonged emotional distress frequently cause illness, it makes sense for psychotherapy and addiction counselling to be covered under medical insurance.


 

Sex addiction counselling is available by telephone and internet in the following centres and throughout Northern Ontario, as well as all of Ontario, Alberta and Manitoba, and other remote areas in Canada.

Northern Ontario centres:

Huntsville
Marten River
Mattawa
Muskoka
Nobel
North Bay
Parry Sound
Sturgeon Falls
Sundridge
Temagami
Espanola
French River
Alban
Noelville
Greater Sudbury
Azilda
Blezard Valley
Capreol
Chelmsford
Copper Cliff
Coniston
Dowling
Hanmer
Lively
Onaping
Skead
Val Caron
Val Therese
Wahnapitae
Whitefish
Worthington
Killarney
Manitoulin Island
Gore Bay
Kagawong
Little Current
Manitowaning
Mindemoya
Provindence Bay
South Baymouth
Markstay
Massey
St. Charles
Webbwood
Algoma Mills
Blind River
Bruce Mines
Chapleau
Elliot Lake
Hornpayne
Iron Bridge
Sault Ste Marie
Spanish
St Joseph Island
Thessalon
Wawa
Whiteriver

Thunder Bay
Dryden
Fort Frances
Kenora
North Bay
Parry Sound
Sudbury
Killarney
Manitoulin Island
Algoma Country
Algoma Mills
Blind River
Bruce Mines
Chapleau
Elliot Lake
Hornpayne
Iron Bridge
Sault Ste Marie (the Sault or the Soo)
Spanish
St Joseph Island
Thessalon
Wawa
Whiteriver
Cobalt
Cochrane
Earlton
Englehart
Foleyet
Gogama
Haileybury
Hearst
Iroquois Falls
Kapuskasing
Kirkland Lake
Latchford
Matheson
Moose Factory
Moosonee
New Liskeard
Timmins
North of Superior
Geraldton
Hillsport
Kakabeka Falls
Les chutes
Longlac
Manitouwadge
Marathon
Red Rock
Thunder Bay
Sunset Country
Atikokan
Dryden
English River
Fort Frances
Ignace
Kenora

 

Beth Mares, clinical member, Ontario Society of Psychotherapists, marital and sex addiction counsellor; individual and couple sex therapist, help with sexual addiction, cheating and sexual problems. This service is LGBTQ and kink friendly.

Danforth East in Toronto (on subway, near The Beaches, serving East York, Scarborough, Pickering & Markham)

Distance counselling for sexual addiction and pornography addiction provided throughout Ontario, and especially to Northern Ontario, including Thunder Bay, Sault, North Bay, Kenora, Parry Sound, Sudbury, and Timmins. Distance counselling also available in the Kawarthas, Lindsay, Fenelon Falls, Haliburton, Burnt River, Coboconk, and Cameron in the City of Kawartha Lakes.