The Compassionate Friends Library

This section will list the books available in the Chapter library for loan to the members. It is hoped that a short review be included with a rating. A list of handout could also be included in this section of the web site.


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After the Death of a Child: Living With Loss Through the Years
Author: Ann K. Finkbeiner
ISBN: 080185914X
Published: June 1998 | Published by Woodrow Wilson Center Press

A book that explores our own resilience in the midst of one of the most distressful forms of human suffering, the death of a child. Because children aren't supposed to die, the loss is not only painful but profoundly disorienting. Finkbeiner, whose only child died in 1987, refers to her own experience and the experience of others to show that while bereaved parents can never really let go, they can and do recover, often developing a new appreciation for their own lives. Says one parent: "You just don't treat life as lightly, and if you don't treat things lightly, they do become richer.".

After the Darkest Hour, the Sun Will Shine Again
Author: Elizabeth Mehren

ISBN: 0684811707
Published: January 1997 | Published by Simon & Schuster Trade

After Elizabeth Mehren lost her daughter, she set out to write the book she most needed: one that would offer solace, support, and inspiration. Telling her own story and the stories of other bereaved parents - contemporary and historical - she discovered that this worst grief of all never ends but that if you're open to it, it can transform itself. Above all, it is a journey. After the Darkest Hour is both a guide and a meditation. The author takes us through the process of grieving, from the effects of a child's death on the parents' marriage to what to say when someone asks, "Do you have children?" This book also offers valuable advice for the friends and relatives of bereaved parents

Afterlife: The Complete Guide to Life after Death
Author: Emily Goldman
Published: January 1994 | Published by Studio Books

An honest, sometimes sardonic exploration, featuring beautiful illustrations, of the many varieties of beliefs about the afterlife, reviews various religious beliefs and personal accounts of near-death experiences and reincarnation.

Against the Dying of the Light: A Father's Journey Through Loss
Author: Leonard Fein
Published: February 2001 | Published by Jewish Lights Publishing

How do you explain a seemingly senseless tragedy? What does it mean to be an observer of your own life? In this unusual exploration of heartbreak and healing, Leonard Fein chronicles the sudden death of his 30-year-old daughter and shares the hard-earned wisdom that emerges in the face of loss and grief. With the rich support of his community, Fein anguished, questioned, and ultimately coped with the death of his daughter by wrestling with some of life's toughest questions.

The answers he discovers in the course of his own mourning process provide not only comfort to others in "the company of the bereaved" and strength to those who face personal tragedy, but also wisdom for all who search for life's meanings. Against the Dying of the Light leads us to a different, surprising understanding of the gifts that life and the quest for understanding have to offer.

The Andrew Poems
Author: Shelly Wagner

Published: January 1994 | Published by Texas Tech University Press

One after another...Shelly Wagner's poems reach out and unstrap us; we're forced head-on into the pathos, the overwhelming beauty, the sense of unbearable loss. And as we read on, the only cushioning restraints are the beauty of language, the aesthetic and emotional impact of poetry (which intensify feelings even more, of course). What saves us, then, as reader? How can we bear it? Why should we try to cope with such loss, until we might have to?

The Bereaved Parents' Survival Guide
Author: Juliet C. Rothman
Published: January 1997 | Published by Continuum Publishing Company

This is a wise and compassionate guide through the difficult times that all parents face when they lose a child. It begins with the inner world of the bereaved parent and moves outward to consider relationships to others: to a spouse, to one's other children, to relatives, friends, and acquaintances. It deals with some of the most painful decisions a bereaved parent must face.

Broken Heart Still Beats: After Your Child Dies
Author: Anne McCracken, Mary Semel
ISBN: 1568385560

Published Dec 2000/ Published by:Hazelden Information & Educational Services

A Broken Heart Still Beats, After your child dies. This remarkable complilations of poetry, fiction, and essays eloquently expresses a parent's pain, stages of grief, and the coping and healing that follow. Judith Guest and Dominick Dunne are among the contributors, many of whom are bereaved parents themselves.

Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul: Stories About Life, Death
and Overcoming the Lossof a Loved One

Author: Jack Canfield
Published: February 2003 | Published by Health Communications

This collection of inspirational stories from the #1 New York Times bestselling series will undoubtedly touch many hearts. Written by authors who have lost loved ones, these stories offer comfort, peace and understanding to those going through the grieving process. A portion of the sales from all books in the Chicken Soup series is donated to charity.

Confessions of a Grieving Christian

Author: Zig Ziglar
ISBN: 0840791828
Published: December 1998 | Published by Thomas Nelson

Best-selling author Zig Ziglar tells his personal story of loss, grief, and renewal in this comforting and encouraging book.

Coping with Holidays and Celebrations
Author: Sherokee Ilse
Published 1993/ Published by deRuyter Nelson Publications

This booklet offers ideas for coping with holidays and special family events.

Eagle And The Rose

Author: Rosemary Altea
ISBN: 0446603643
Published: January 1997 | Published by Warner Books

Rosemary Altea, one of the most powerful practicing mediums and healers today, recounts the amazing tale of her psychic gifts and introduces her own guide from the other world, the spirit of a Native American named Grey Eagle. Altea explains how she learned to harness her powers to heal, astral-travel and perform soul rescues and details 10 experiences with the afterlife

Embraced by the Light

Author: Betty J Eadie
ISBN:0553565915
Published: September 1994 | Published by Bantam

On the night of November 19, 1973, following surgery, thirty-one-year-old wife and mother Betty J. Eadie died.... This is her extraordinary story of the events that followed, her astonishing proof of life after physical death. She saw more, perhaps than any other person has seen before and shares her almost photographic recollections of the remarkable details. Compelling, inspiring, and infinitely reassuring, her vivid account gives us a glimpse of the peace and unconditional love that awaits us all. More important, Betty's journey offers a simple message that can transform our lives today, showing us our purpose and guiding us to live the way we were meant to -- joyously, abundantly, and with love.

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart : Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Author: Deborah L Davis
Published:January 1996 | Published by Fulcrum Publishing

The heartache of miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death affects roughly 50,000 U.S. families every year. This revised and expanded edition of Empty Cradle, Broken Heart offers reassurance to parents who struggle with anger, guilt and despair after such tragedy. Deborah Davis encourages grieving and makes suggestions for coping. Added to this edition is new information on issues such as the death of one or more babies from a multiple birth, pregnancy interruption and the questioning of aggressive medical intervention. There is also a special chapter for fathers as well as a chapter on "protective parenting" to help anxious parents enjoy their precious living children. Doctors, nurses, relatives, friends and parents facing infant loss will find support and reassurance in this gentle guide

A Father's Story

Author: Timothy Nelson
Published:1984 | Published by deRuyter-Nelson Publications

Fireflies

Author: David Morrell
ISBN: 0446675903 Published:September 1999 | Published by Warner Books

This is a semi-fictionalized account of the death, from a rare form of cancer, of the author's 15-year-old son. Morrell surrealistically finds himself on the floor of his kitchen, several days before Matthew dies; he has been in the future and, having read the hospital report on the causes of Matthew's death, wants to give his son antibiotics as a prophylactic against the septic shock that will ultimately kill him. Back in the present, the doctors at the University of Iowa hospital don't understand how the author can predict what will happen. They argue that antibiotics could weaken Matthew; they think Morrell is crazed from the strain of his son's illness. He sneaks into Matthew's hospital room and administers the drugs anyway, but they don't save the boy's life. Morrell (First Blood) tells of his family's fear and hurt; of his misapprehension of God's purpose; and of supernatural experiences fireflies, that signify souls, appear to Morrell; one of them is Matthew, who speaks to his father; a dove trapped in the mausoleum at Matthew's funeral allows Morrell to set it free. A painful book to read; the son's courage and the father's anguish jump from the emotionally charged pages. But in terms of style, the comparison that comes to mind is not the dense introspection of, say, James Agee's A Death in the Family , but rather the melodramatic treatment of Eric Segal's Love Story .

Forever Remembered

Author: Dan Zadra
ISBN:1888387203 Published:May 2001 | Published by Compendium Inc

Grieving the loss of a loved one can be a lonely and devastating experience. This book, coupled with caring friends and loving family, is sure to help ease the sorrow and bring enormous comfort. Each page of Forever Remembered reveals a unique, personal, and treasured insight on grieving -- many of them from a well-known celebrity or beloved public figure. These tender and remarkable messages remind us that, regardless of fame or fortune, grief inevitably touches each of our lives. But the essential message is one of hope: life does go on, it must go on. In fact, it is by living out our lives, with the memories of our loved ones sheltered safely in our hearts, that we honor and cherish them best

Grief's Courageous Journey

Author: Sandi Caplan, Gordon Lang
ISBN:1572240172 Published:January 1995 | Published by New Harbinger Publications

This is a self help journaling book that will help you to understand, work through, and write about your bereavement.

Hannah's Gift: Lessons from a Life Fully Lived

Author: Maria Housden
ISBN: 0553802100 Published:February 2002 | Published by Bantam

Every once in a while a book comes along that can change your life-a book so special, it is destined not just to be read but to be cherished, to be passed from one reader to another as a precious gift. Filled with wisdom and grace, tears and laughter, Hannah's Gift is one such book. Within these pages Maria Housden shares the transformative lessons in living she received from her three-year-old daughter Hannah, who brought courage, honesty, and joy to her struggle with cancer.

During the last year of her short life, Hannah was fearless in the way she faced death-and irrepressibly joyful in the way she approached living. The little girl who wore her favorite red Mary Janes into the operating room changed the life of everyone who came in contact with her. Now, in a book that preserves Hannah's indomitable spirit, Maria Housden offers the gift of her daughter's last year to all of us.

In a lyrically told narrative, both moving and unforgettable, Housden recounts Hannah's battle with cancer in simple, straightforward language that transcends grief and fear to become a celebration. From Hannah's story emerge five profound lessons-of truth, joy, faith, compassion, and wonder-that have the power to change our lives.

During her illness Hannah showed how we can truly live in the moment and break free from lives suffocated by too many unlived joys. Even more memorable is the message Hannah delivered after her death to those she loved-a message of hope for anyone faced with the deepest questions of life and death.

Hannah's Gift nourishes the soul with an ageless wisdom all the more invaluable for having come from someone so young. A remarkable story, remarkably told, it will bring comfort to anyone touched by loss, and renewed faith in the
power of love.
Closing her eyes and extending her arms, Hannah began to dance. Oblivious to everything but the shoes on her feet, she skipped and clicked across the floor, twirling in circles, faster and faster. There was something about her pure joy and the defiant nobility of the red shoes that caught everyone's attention...

Happiness is a Choice

Author: Frank Minirth M.D.
ISBN: 0901063140 Published:November 1994 | Published by Baker Book House

Happiness is a Choice is a clinically-proven, non-technical guidebook for families, as well as a resource for pastors, counselors, and family physicians, helping people realize that happiness is a matter of choice and not only of circumstances

Healing A Parent's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas AfterYour Child Dies

Author: Alan D Wolfeit
ISBN:1879651300 Published:April 2002 | Published by Companion Press

Presenting simple yet highly effective methods for coping and healing, this book provides answers and relief to parents trying to deal with the loss of a child. It offers 100 practical, action-oriented tips for embracing grief, such as: writing a letter to the child who has died, spending time with others who will listen to the story of your grief, creating a memory book, box, or Web site; and remembering others who may still be struggling with the death. This guide discusses common problems for grieving parents such as dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice, and exploring feelings of guilt. This compassionate resource will aid parents who have been through the death of a child, whether the passing was recent or many years ago, and whether the child was young or an adult

Healing Grief

Author: James Van Praagh
ISBN:0375430539 Published:April 2000 | Published by Random House

James Van Praagh's first two books, both New York Times bestsellers, have been a powerful healing force for millions of readers. Using his talents as a medium, Van Praagh has not only helped the bereaved reach their lost loved ones and find peace but he has also illuminated the mysteries of death, the afterlife, and rebirth. His new book, Healing Grief, will once again draw from his compelling and uplifting readings, but with a new and special purpose- to show what the spirit world can teach us about the grieving process itself.

While grief is clearly a natural response to death, it should also properly accompany life's other difficult passages, including times of transition, the loss of a relationship, or even the loss of a pet. Healing Grief begins with chapters that each examine a specific kind of loss - death of a parent, a spouse, or a child, the end of a marriage, or the onset of a troubling life change, such as unemployment or grave illness - and considers the particular bereavement issues it may engender. The book also offers advice on explaining death to children, on distinguishing healthy from destructive grief, and on harnessing the powers of healing through special exercises, meditation and affirmations. Healing Grief should be, in Van Praagh's words, "a manual for grieving well," offering an inspiring new perspective on grief from a world-renowned medium who has become an expert at helping people cope with unresolvable sorrow.

Hello From Heaven

Author: Bill Guggenheim
ISBN:0553110473X Published:March 1998 | Published by Bantam Books Canada Incorprated

Hello From Heaven! asks the question: has a loved one who has died contacted you? After-Death Communication has occurred when an individual is touched by a dead loved one without the use of psychics, mediums or other intermediaries. This intriguing collection of first-hand accounts from people who've experienced ADC furthers the exploration of life after death

How to Survive The Loss Of A Child

Author: Catherine Sanders
ISBN: 0761512896
Published:March 1998 | Published by Prima Publishing

"Thank you, Catherine Sanders, for giving us a book that few others could have written. Every page speaks both the depth of your compassion and the breadth of your knowledge. This book will be a wise companion on the difficult journey from loss to recovery."_- Robert Kastenbaum, Ph.D., author of The Psychology of Death
"How to Survive the Loss of a Child is a godsend to those in the field as well as to those of us in need of such a resource for our own mourning."_- Eugene Knott, Ph.D., University of Rhode Island
"Dr. Sanders' insights are profound and poignant."_- Patricia Geiger, M.D., pediatrician, Boone, North Carolina
"Thank you so much for all that you do for bereaved parents but especially for writing How to Survive the Loss of a Child. I know that it has changed lives. It changed mine!"_- Nancy Ulmer, bereaved parent, Kindermourn, Charlotte, North Carolina
It is only through experiencing grief that bereaved parents ultimately heal. Moving through the phases of grief, the bereaved person works toward restoration. Understanding these phases, knowing what to expect, and learning what they can do to help themselves give parents greater assurance and comfort.
In How to Survive the Loss of a Child, Dr. Sanders, a bereaved parent herself, offers grieving parents practical help and emotional support. This book also helps family members, friends, and caregivers relate to grieving parents and aids them, too, in understanding the process of healing through grief.

I Have No Intention of Saying Good-Bye: Parents Share Their Stories of Hope and Healing After a Child's Death

Writers Club Press ISBN: 0595161189

Five or more years after the death of their children, 25 families open their hearts and share stories of courage, hope and their attempts to make sense out of the most unbearable loss of all. What did they do to move on with their lives, to make each day meaningful again, to remember their child? In addition to helping themselves, learn how these parents help others and what advice they give to those still having difficulty living in a world without their child.

If I Could Only See Hope

Author: Darcie Sims
ISBN: 0-9618995-4-9
Published:1993 | Published by Big A & Company

Journaling a Pathway Through Grief: One Family' s Journey After the Death of a Child

Author: Wendy Dean
ISBN:1552634418
Published:April 2002 | Published by Ken Porter Booksy

Language of Letting Go

Author: M. Beattie
ISBN:1567312381
Published:January 1998 | Published by Fine Communication

Was one of the most useful thoughtful presents that I'd received during a very upsetting time in my life. Her writing is so real - every meditation seems to apply so much. I pick up this book often to feel good if I'm a little down or feel great when I'm already doing well.

The Lessons of Love: Rediscovering Our Passion for Life When It All Seems Too Hard to Take

Author: Melody Beattie
ISBN:0062510789
Published:January 1995 | Published by Harper Collins Canada Limited

The Lessons of Love is more than a chronicle of grief and recovery. In a series of more than a dozen brief, reflective tales--universal "lessons of love"--the author of Codependent No More shows readers how to find the magic in life when it all seems too much to bear.

The Lively Shadow: Living with the Death of a Child

Author: Donald M. Murray
ISBN:0062510789
Published:February 2003 | Published by Ballantine Books

A tragedy that has affected millions also touched Donald M. Murray, Pulitzer Prize-winning columnist for The Boston Globe, twenty-five years ago. Now, for the first time, he fully expresses what he lost -- and learned -- in a book even more touching than his inspiring volume on aging, My Twice-Lived Life.
Lee Murray was Donald and Minnie Mae's middle child, one of three girls. An avid oboe player accepted into a prestigious conservatory, the family "caretaker" with compassion for everyone, a young woman with a devoted boyfriend and the whole world ahead of her -- Lee succumbed at age twenty to Reye's syndrome, commonly considered a childhood illness. In The Lively Shadow, her father remembers the hell of her passing and the healing it took him years to finally experience.
From hearing initial news that Lee was in the hospital and four harrowing days spent by her bedside, to trying to teach, write and love others while grieving, to learning to live at last with only Lee's memory, Donald Murray embarks upon a journey that is at once universal and informed by his own life's details. Whether he's feeling irrational guilt at not being able to protect his child or pulling off the highway to release a primal howl, the pain Murray feels brings him ultimately to a place of peace, an acceptance whereby he realizes "the most terrible experience of my life has also been a gift," requiring "a continuous celebration of the commonplace."
Unflinching in its honesty, The Lively Shadow is a beloved author's most impressive achievement -- a book bound to be a continuing comfort to anyone who has lost a loved one, a touchstone on a topic few have written about, let alone addressed so openly.

Longing For My Child: Reflections for Parents and Siblings After a Child's

Author: Christine O'Keefe Laser
ISBN:0062510789
Published:March 2002| Published by Loyola Press

If you have lost a child, you know the deep sadness that envelops you following the death. Through a series of touching profiles, comforting meditations, and Scripture, author Christine O'Keeffe Lafser remembers lives lost too soon, offers spiritual comfort, and, most importantly, gives encouragement that life can and will go on.

Loss of My Only Child

Author: Cindy Viar

Love Never Dies

Author: Sandy Goodman
ISBN:1588720152
Published:March 2002| Published by Jodere Group

It's never comfortable to read, or even think, about grief. And Love Never Dies is many things--eloquent, sweet, touching, and powerful--but it is definitely not an easy read. Sandy Goodman has taken brave steps past Kübler-Ross's work On Death and Dying), and here she challenges us to open ourselves to a different set of stages that she labels numbness, unrelenting pain, searching, and reinventing. She writes with comforting openness about pretending that she was progressing through the standard stages, was "getting over" the death of her son, and was searching for a more clearly defined faith. She also is frank about the real need to continue acknowledging birthdays as well as the anniversary of death, and provides a few specific suggestions for friends to help those going through grief, such as asking, "How are you really doing since [he] died," instead of merely, "How are you?"

Each chapter closes with a short message in bold print, written from the point of view of Goodman's dead son, Jason. She clarifies in the introduction that this is not channeling or automatic writing, merely her best guess as to what he might have to add to her own thoughts. Regardless of your point of view on these additions, it is clear that Jason is continually present to his family.

While the particular focus of the book relates to parental grief, much of it is both useful and appropriate for anyone dealing with a powerful loss

Making Meaning of the Madness

Author: Dan Lundine
ISBN: 0-9680426-1-9
Published:1997| Published by Tall Timbers Publishing Corp.

Beautifully written, poignant. With heartfelt sincerity, Dan Lundine has shared openly an intimately painful journey - the tragic, premature death of his son. In journeying with him, our losses are affirmed and authenticated. Especially recommended for the newly bereaved, it offers hope and comfort with practical coping advice.

Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much

Author: Anne W. Schaef
ISBN: 0062548662
Published: January 1990| Published by HarperCollins Canada, Limited

Daily meditations to help women break the cycle of doing too much--for workaholics, busyaholics, rushaholics, and careaholics.
Many of today's women are overextended--addiction to working, rushing, taking care of other people's needs. With wisdom, insight, and humor, these 365 mediations--combined with quotations from women of different ages, cultures, and perspectives--will help women recognize that cycle. A welcome antidote to the mad rush of modern living. Schaef's concise mediations will open new doors to new ways of living.
For all women who do too much--regardless of where they do it or how--these mediations will provide sustenance and inspiration and create possibilities for positive change in their lives.

One Last Time: A Psychic Medium Speaks to Those We Have Loved and Lost

Author: John Edward
ISBN: 0425166929
Published:February 2000| Published by Berkley

The man with the gift of otherworldly communication who offers hope to millions of North Americans desperate to connect to deceased loved ones, John Edward offers his amazing story in the spiritual memoir and guide One Last Time. Television viewers mesmerized by Edward's appearances on America's most popular talk shows gain insight into his extraordinary story of becoming a potent medium -- and how you too can tap into your innate psychic powers.

Parent's Grief: Help & Understanding After the Death of A Baby

Author: Carol Parrott
Published:1992| Published by Medic Publishing Co

A Path Through Loss: A Guide to Writing Your Healing and Growth

Author: Nancy Reeves
ISBN: 1896836488
Published:October 2001| Published by Northstone Publications

A loss is any experience we feel restricts us. The process of healing or growing through this restriction is called grief."--Nancy Reeves, in the BC Counsellor, journal of the British Columbia School Counsellors' Assn.
Grief can come from many sources: divorce or separation, unemployment, a serious injury, abuse, chronic or terminal illness, death, or a life transition such as a career change, a move, or retirement. This self-directed journal-based guide recognizes that grief is a process. Well-written and filled with practical information, it provides tools for nurturing the physical, motional, and spiritual aspects of the self, including the unique Energy Management Model, which helps the grieving monitor their energy level and progress. It also addresses the often neglected aspects of grief, such as spirituality, guilt, forgiveness, and ritual, and has a section on children and grief. Intended for individual use, it will also be valuable for counselors

The Practice of Prayer

Author: George Appleton

Proud Spirit : Lessons, Insights & Healing from 'the Voice of the Spirit World'

Author: Rosemary Altea
ISBN: 0688160670
Published: May 1998| Published by William Morrow

Proud Spirittakes the readers further along the path, exploring opportunities for spiritual growth in everyday life. Rosemary's storytelling skills inspire us as she recounts the time Christ laid his hands atop her own as she gave healing. Her spine-tingling tales of being visited by a group of spirit-world children and invited to a misnight picnic in a haunted house add awe, mystery, and magic to her work. Profound spiritual truths emerge: the need to know, value, and be gentle with ourselves, to be proud spirits who always quest for self-worth and that which lies within.

Reflections from the Heart

Writings from The Compassionate Friends

Remembering the Death of a Child, Support and Healing, Hope and Inspiration

Author: Robert Thompson

Death is a terrorist. Never is it more of a terrorist than when we see it strike our children. We are gripped by anger, frustration and pain in a way that none of us is prepared to handle.

Bob and Martha Thompson invite us into the world of their terror beginning with the first minutes after they received the word of the car accident that killed their son, Paul. From that call through the funeral and the loneliness that followed they guide us through their painful experiences and feelings.

Bob not only describes the desolation of his son's loss, but he also illuminates the way of healing that God gave to their family. As a physician he understands the way the body works to heal its injuries. His medical insight gives him creative metaphors for the healing that is needed in our heart following the death of a child.

One of the most important parts of this book is the witness that it gives to all of us who are marked by death. Bob and Martha write down their "remembering" to reveal how our wounds do not lead to hiding but open doors to healing as we learn ways to share them with others.

This book will help families who have grieved the death of a child do their own remembering<

Roses in December: Comfort for the Grieving Heart

Author: Joni Eareckson Tada
ISBN: 1565078586
Published by NorthstoneHarvest House

Safe in the Arms of Jesus; God's Provision for the Death of a Child

Author: Robert P. Lightner
ISBN: 0825431565
Published:February 2000| Published by Kregel Publications

Sixth Sense

Author: Laurie Nadel

Stop Running Scared

Author: Herbert Fensterheim
ISBN: 044037734X
Published:January 1982| Published by Dell Distributing

Surviving Death

Author: James Taylor

Talking To Heaven

Author: James Van Praagh
ISBN: 0451191722
Published:January 1999| Published by Signet

Is it possible to contact the spirits of our deceased friends and loved ones? Can speaking with the dead ease the pain, grief and loneliness following a tragic loss? Join spiritual medium James Van Praagh as he enlightens the world about his wonderful gift in the New York Times best-seller, Talking to Heaven. This thought-provoking and insightful work features testimonials from individuals who credit the author with helping them receive hopeful messages from souls in the afterlife.

When Bad Things Happen to Good People

Author: Harold Kushner
ISBN: 0380603926
Published July 1998| Published by Avon Books

Rarely does a book come along that tackles a perennially difficult human issue with such clarity and intelligence. Harold Kushner, a Jewish rabbi facing his own child's fatal illness, deftly guides us through the inadequacies of the traditional answers to the problem of evil, then provides a uniquely practical and compassionate answer that has appealed to millions of readers across all religious creeds. Remarkable for its intensely relevant real-life examples and its fluid prose, this book cannot go unread by anyone who has ever been troubled by the question, "Why me?"

When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter

Author: Ph.D Bernstein
ISBN: 0836252829
Published 1998| Published by Andrews McMeel Publishing

Bernstein argues that parents don't recover from the death of a child so much as they adapt to it, forever altering the way they think and act--often with negative consequences. To provide some understanding of this complex situation, she interviewed 55 parents whose children had died. This research, plus her own experiences (Bernstein's son died when he was 25), allows her to examine the various stages of grief, the mourning process, the effects on family and social relationships, and the emotional differences between facing a sudden death (such as a murder) and an anticipated death (such as a terminal illness). She also probes the different ways men and women tend to mourn. This can cause problems, especially when a husband's comparative reticence makes a wife believe that he's relatively unaffected by the death of their child. Compassionate and revealing, it should aid both mental-health professionals and parents dealing with this kind of devastating loss. Brian McCombie

When Your Child Dies

Author: Theresa Huntley
ISBN: 0806642610
Published 1998| Published by Augsburg Fortress Publishing

The loss of a child is something no parent is prepared to face. Drawing on her experience as a counselor, Theresa Huntley gives grieving parents tools to begin to cope with this devastating loss. She discusses the difficult task of mourning and the different ways of grieving. Huntley also reveals how the magnitude of the loss will affect parents' other relationships.

Why Are the Casseroles Always Tuna: A Loving Look at the Lighter Side of Grief

Author: Darcie Sims
ISBN: 0961899514
Published June 1992| Published by Centering Corporation



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