This page is fairly bare right now, but I will be adding to it over the next while. Please remember that these tips are based on my experience and beliefs. I am not an expert...just an adoptee.
If you have any tips you'd like to share, feel free to send them to me!
People have numerous reasons for searching, and no search is exactly like another. Some are successful, some not; some are quick and easy, some are long and complicated; some bring joy, some bring pain...and some bring both. Before searching, it's important to understand *why* you want to search, and what you hope to get out of it.
Things to remember:
- As I mentioned above, understand why you are searching; ask yourself what you hope to gain from the search and possible reunion. This process can have a long lasting impact on your life, and the lives of others. Being aware of the reasons and possible outcomes is an important step.
- There are different two main types of searches: passive and active. Passive searches involve getting your information out in places which members of your birth family could find it. This leaves things open for a 'mutual' reunion because both parties had to have been interested. Active searches, on the other hand, involve tracking down current information about birth relatives, mostly for the purpose of initiating contact.
Some steps to take:
- Gather information! Try to track down any and all information (birth certificate, details of your birth, etc.) as this will be very helpful. Non-identifying information can be provided to you by your adoption agency or lawyer. This is very important and should be obtained early on in the process.
- Look into the adoption related laws in your region. What could work in one part of the world, might not work in another. Research is key! Your government department which deals with social services would be a good starting point. Contacts there should be able to offer you some area-specific information.
- Get your name out there! Register your name with as many registries, search engines and directories as possible. Two excellent starting points are the International Soundex Reunion Registry and BirthQuest.
- Join a support group. Interactions with other people going through the same thing can be extremely useful. Try looking both online and offline to find a group that will fit your needs.
Check out these related websites:
Making the Decision to Search
Background information about who searches and why, in general, they search.
Some helpful tips from About.com
The ABCs of Searching
Useful tips and interesting thoughts